She is not in title and it was acquired after the legal separation period, I would assume none. However, check with a lawyer if this is correct to give you a better opinion on the matter.

Closing means that the loan is ready and will exchange hands on a specific date. Closing does not happen when there is no money to exchange. The deposit made may be forfeited by the real estate company or the seller which evers apply as per your contract.

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I have been dating this man for 9 yrs now. when we met i was still married(seperated) i have been divorced for 4 yrs now.since then he has been sent to iraq three times.each time was for one year. now that he is back i am ready to get married. he says he is too but does not show it. he asked me to marry him in june and i got a ring. but when i bring up marriage it always turns into a big fight. he feels as if i am rushng him. i think i have been very patient .he means every thing to me and my kids. he does very well with my two kids (from previous marriage) and helps me with anything i ask (money or fixing something around the house) in july i told him that i was not going to be his girlfriend in 2007 either we get married before then or we will go our seperate ways. now here we are in nov and still dont have a date set. we agreed that the justice of the peace and a reception would be fine. but i still dont have a date and every time i ask he gets pissed. should i continue to wait?

I really understand how you feel and yes you have been very patient. I have that same problem, but it's been 5 yrs. I don't seem to understand men sometimes, they say they want something but never make the move to get it. Try one more time having a heart to heart talk with him, and let him know that you are not trying to pressure him, but he isn't giving you nothing to really hold onto for you'll future. I mean there is no difference so what's the excuse, I mean you all are committed and been together this long, the only thing that will change is your last name. So why can't he just give you that you deserve it. Men use the excuse of not being ready, but i don;t see why they say that, Nothing is changing but your last name. If you all live together and he is faithful and committed to you and only you then it's just like being married. But if you feel there is no hope and you don;t want to stick around any longer being a girlfriend follow your heart!!

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Who we divorced over...i had children to raise and have never been involved with anyone. mostly working all the time..there is one man that i have known for 25 years that i am very attracted to. he knew i was attracted to him but he was getting ready to get married to an older lady...they married built a fine home..i dont see him much...ran into him at a function..he talked to me several times, as i was exiting to go home..he was standing with several men outside who i knew who all told me goodbye and have a good night...:he said: are u leaving, and started walking me to my car...before we got to the car another man that he knew stopped and talked to him...i waited a few minutes and joined in the conversation and then politly said goodnight....i walked to my car by myself wishing i had waited around...he seemed very interested in me..asking me how i have been...should i have waited...should i make contact with him...he is seperated from his wife and i am afraid i really blew my chance

Does he know where you live? If you have kids I assume he does. You did the right thing , don't want to seem to anxious.

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I have been with my lady for 4 years. i have been divorced for 9 years. she has been seperated for 6 years but is not yet divorced. we want to get married and i am ready to propose. however, should i wait until her divorce is final or is it okay to ask now. i am unsure of the proper ettiquet.

6yrs?? WTF is she waiting for, Jesus to come finalize it?? If she really wanted to marry u then she'd be divorced already. No divorce takes that long.

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I have been married for the past 9 years and we have an 8 year old daughter. we are from india but lives in denmark now. i and my wife do not go well together. she is very bossy, very arrogant; often have nasty arguments and verbal fights me in front of my daughter or even in the street or in the public. i have never seen a woman with so much pride and selfishness in my life. when she becomes really angry she even throw things in the room, shout very loud without even considering the neighbors. in the beginning i tried to adjust with her hoping that things are going to get better. but there was no change in her behavior. in fact it got more worst over the years. she just wants everything in her own way. just for an example to show her attitude and behavior i am writing the following that happened recently. i want to visit my parents and friend in india every year. my wife doesn't want to come to india and visit her parents or relatives. every time when i talk about going to india for a vacation she always find so many excuses. this year summer finally she agreed to go to india for exactly 30 days. i went to book the tickets to india. i get a cheaper ticket, if i am ready to travel on monday evening. but she was not ready to travel on that particular day, because if we travel on that day the total days of holiday becomes 31 days compared to her agreed 30 days vacation. she was not at all ready to travel on that monday. in the end i had to buy expensive tickets for the three of us. even though she is working, she was not ready to pay for her ticket though. this kind of behavior, i cannot tolerate. i don't want to talk to her anymore because always it ends in arguments and fights. i don’t want my daughter to see all these. i just want to give my daughter all my love and care. we live in the same house but in different rooms for the past more than 6 years. i just live with her just because of my daughter. my daughter loves both of us. but often i think for going for a divorce. but when i think about my daughter, i think i will wait for some more years. my wife also loves our daughter very much, that i know. emotionally i don't have anybody to share all my feelings. i haven't told about these to any of my friends so far. they all think we have a good family. recently i met a woman at work, who is almost two years older than me. she is danish and single. she looks is very calm, very pleasant, doesn't have any show-off kind of nature, works very hard, no gossiping, etc. we take the bus to work from the same place and that way we started talking each other almost every day. at first it was casual talking between us and then after a while we started talking about our personal stuff and feelings, etc. first i started liking this girl and now i think i started loving her. i love to talk to her and see her whenever it is possible. i think she also likes me. until i met this woman, i thought i will never have another girl in life. it was not because i don’t like to have somebody to love, but just after thinking about my daughter. but now i am in a situation where i am on the verge of falling in love with this danish woman. i have never shown any indication about this to her so far. i am confused now. at one side i have my daughter; a wife with whom i can’t adjust with or love anymore; me and wife are not separated officially even though we live like separated; now this new woman with whom i afraid i fall in love. i am really sad, depressed and confused now. am i crossing the lines here? am i really cheating since i am not officially separated from my wife? please give me your opinions. thank you very must for reading this.

I am sorry to hear that you are in such an unfortunate predicament. Have you fully expressed your concerns to her (i.e. making her aware that you've contemplated divorce?) That would definitely be a start. Has she ever expressed discontent with your relationship? Do you think that your wife would be willing to seek help, together with you, in efforts to improve your marriage? Are you and your wife religious? If so, I would suggest meeting with your religious leader and expressing your concerns. If not, you should look into marriage counseling. This is a very difficult situation for you, I'm sure. Was your marriage arranged, or did you fall in love with each other on your own? As far as the other woman is concerned, I would say that you are borderline cheating-- you can cheat emotionally if you are lusting after this woman and/ or have feelings for her beyond the level of a platonic friendship.

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My ex-husband of five years started cheating on me back in march of last year. he is one of the rudest ex-husbands i know. the other day was when he finally fessed up that him and the girl were now together and they are dating. he even went as far to me that he's going to marry her, which is fine with me, but everytime we talk and its not about our daughter he looses his mind and just starts accusing me of all of this stuff. we seperated about 9 months ago and i finally filed for divorce about 1 month ago. he put his girlfriend on the phone and she tried to tell me all this stuff about me..........so now im finally at the point where im getting ready to file for full physical custody just so we get communication down to the minimum. i want to get married again and be happy eventually, but that idea just seems so far fetched right now..........so tell me what you think.

Your ex husband is doing what alot of others ex husband's do. They want people to believe their ex wives are physco. If your ex's woman has not caught on to this and causes problems too, then she is just as stupid as your ex is.

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I was seeing this guy last summer and we clicked really well and we fell in love with each other. well we split because his divorce was not all the way final after two years being seperated and the custody issue with the kids was on his mind and the bottom line is that he ws totally focusing on his kids and trying to get in another house. well 9 months later (yes we did have some contact) he wants to get back together and move slow at first. he said he missed the times we had together and the memories. well... can someone please define "move slow at first". he has been through a lot of drama and i'm scared that he is not ready yet... but i aked him that and he says he is ready. hes invloving his kids back in to the picture and talking about going up north and everything else. i dont talk to him everyday.. but i just want some opinions. thanks

slow means not marriage yet, so he can get a chance to focus on you as you are, hang on, he will, when he is caught up with his emotional roller coaster!

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My wife and i have been together for almost 11 years now married for coming up on 4 years in oct. 2009. february of this year we seperated for about 3 months when she came back everything was going great we actually enjoyed being around each other and spent quality time with each other. but before we separated our relationship like most other couples really was stale we hardly talked to each other or spent any time with each other and in november of 2008 she began having an affair with one of her ex's she said all they did was talk on the phone and they did meet at a bar a few times with some of her girl friends, i do believe she never did anything sexual with him, however my trusting her has been shot. i then started doing alot of reading and learning about what makes relationships work and seen my errors and since have been doing everything i can to correct the problems. and here about 2 months ago we have started to go downhill again, she is constantly going over to her friends house again and going out to bars again with her, (her friend is single mind you and my wife and i have 3 children 9,7, and 4) when i get home from work she wants to just take off and leave me with the kids so she can have her "girl time" as she calls it. i don't really have a problem with her having time for herself but i don't think it needs to be everyday and i don't think she needs to be going out to bars without me, especially for awhile kinda rebuild the trust thing?? and she has taken her wedding ring off again here about 2 weeks ago and will not put it back on, she says that she is not ready to wear it right now? she has again filed for divorce a week ago but says she doesn't know if that's what she wants, our court date is oct. 7 2009 (3 days after our anniversary) but she doesn't want to talk about anything she doesn't want to see a marriage councelor she says she knows how a marriage is suppose to be? and all she says is lets just take it day by day? how do you fix a relationship without talking about anything? should i just give up? i love my kids and her but i can't keep having to walk on eggshells everytime we get in an arguement and have to worry about her filling for a divorce again. any help would be greatly appreciated.

Wow.....even I am dizzy from this roller coaster ride. Your wife is yo-yoing you and your children and that is cruel and unstable. It seems to me, that your wife really does not want your marriage and doesn't really know what she wants. Maintain your dignity and self respect....let her go. There is nothing you can do to make her love you....she has a low self esteem and is looking for someone to make her feel better about herself. And that is impossible. She needs to grow up and learn to love herself. Using other people, whether it is you, her friends, or other men, will not accomplish this, no matter how hard she tries. Your wife does not like herself, thus, she can't be alone with herself, so she uses other people to make her feel good. This is not good for you or your children. She is a bad example to your children by creating a sense of insecurity in them and in your home. She is selfish. You need to believe in yourself enough to know that you deserve to be truly loved for you. Your marriage is unhealthy and creating anxiety in you and your children. It is toxic. Let your wife leave......set her free to destroy her own life. One day she will wake up and realize what she has lost. Unfortunately, the minute you meet the right woman, your wife will want you back.....and not because she loves you. She won't want anyone else to take her "fall back" guy. It is a cruel game that some women, like her, play. You should never have to lower yourself to convince someone to love you and you can not make someone want the relationship. And you shouldn't have to constantly try to change to get her to change or to love you. You will lose yourself in this attempt. Loving someone, is accepting that person for who he/she is. And your wife can't love or accept you or anyone at this point in her life.....because she doesn't love herself. I pray that God will heal your heart and give you the strength you need to get through this. God bless you and your children.

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Ok i am 21 my bofriend is 23 i have a little boy from another relationship he's 2 and my boyfriend haves a lil boy that's 4 and a little boy on the way from his x wife now i known my boyfriend for 8 or 9 years and we were together for 3 or 4 years before we broke up he got married and i got in a serious relationship but we always kept in touch we knew where our hearts were i broke up with the father of my child because of other reasons me and my boyfriend got back together in january he was still married but they were seperated for there own reasons now they just made there divorce offical and we are together and truely happy we live together now like i said i have a boy and he does too with one on the way next month now i love his boy like my own as he does mine if we have problems we talk about it and work it out we don't go to sleep mad at eachother anyways my son is two and i want another child but because he is having another baby that's on the way next month he don't want with me now we both want alout of kids like 8 or more and we both want to get married some day but i always said when my son got two i would want another baby but i don't know what to do i don't want a unwanted child we have unprotected sex and he say when it happans it will happan and he says he wants a child with me just not now but if it happans now he says he will still be happy but he pulls out every time we have sex so i'm not gona get a child any time soon as i can see so what do i do? do i just wait intill he's ready or do i bring it up again cuz the last time he just said wait but i keep thinking of it omg help....

You said you were having unprotected sex? then, he's right, if it happens then it happens. And from his own words, he would still be happy if it happens. SO I don't think there is any problem. Just stop thinking about it, maybe the stress keeps u from having another baby.. Eventually you will, and its almost a promise, he'll love that baby as much as he love the already existing babies. Maybe he only wanted undivided attention for each child, that's why he keeps on saying that you cant have baby for a while..

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I need an outsider presective on my relationship. here it is in a nut shell....ready?! i have been with my bf on off for about three years after my divorce. we meet while i was pregnant, and lived together for almost 2 yrs, then when my daughter was born and around 6 mo, we had issues seperated, and i started dating my daughters father. ( i have two kids prior marriage) and my youngest from ex. so me and her dad start dating for around 9 mo and we break up, due to his temper, and drug use. then a while down the road i start seeing my bf again he moves in with me. tells me he loves my kids, and they need him and we can just be friends, because after my ex and i broke up there was physical violance. so now i am with my bf and all we do is fight. he is constantly accusing me of sleeping with someone else, or telling me i am crazy if i want to leave him. he tries to tell me i am not normal because i wont give him what he wants...which is sex everyday, even tho i take care of three kids.. and i recently found out i was prego with him and he is telling me when we fight get an abortion i dont want to have a kid with you. then in the next breath when i try to leave he does not apolgize but tells me its my fault for getting him so mad, and he didnt mean it. he constantly tells me there is something wrong with me. can you work through something like this in a relationship, or is it time to call it quits. he tells me becaucse i am prego i should try to work out with him. should i? i am tired of fighting but i dont want to make a mistake leaving him. when times are good there good, but when there bad oh god duck and cover. he tells me he loves me and know one will eveve me love me lkike him , thats why he stays cause he hopes i ll get normal. n my bf is not absuing drugs, an he in reality wants a baby girl. he lost his first born the mom didnt tell him and he found out when she was 4 yrs old, he has a 11 yr old son who lives with the mom , and he has always wanted a girl. i am 23 he is 39

you are with a guy who is trying to control you, it will get worse as time goes by...there is nothing you will be able to do well enough. He has serious image and security issues that are beyond your help. If you were wise, and if you value your child's safety, I suggest running to the nearest exit. This one is not for you. If you stay with him, you will be wasting serious time you will never have back. Please do not think he is going to change, he is not. He will never trust you, he will always invent reasons, places, times...when you have stepped out on him. It could well be that he is playing around and therefore does not trust you...that is often the case. Regardless, you have no future with this person (I avoid the term, 'man' intentionally) Surely you can do better in life than this...hell, being alone is better than this, and the happiest people I know are alone. Good luck